The prospect of the same gender marriage seems to be retaking the nation by storm. The issue has shifted from a question of morality to “civil rights” and “equality.”
The centuries-old definition of marriage – between one man and one woman – which is the bedrock value of western civilizations, is under attack, and “marriage” is now to include the union of two persons of the same sex.
Faith, intuition, and common sense inform us that marriage is between one man and one woman. How can that be changed? Is white black? Is up down? Is a 50-yard dash a 100-yard dash? Can one pound consist of 20 ounces? Can we twist definitions into any wild, out-of-kilter design the suits us?
And if marriage can be defined between two persons of the same sex, how soon will that expand into a broadened view of marriage? In the name of “equality” can polygamy become law? Could four persons be united into marriage? Could a woman marry her two sons? There is no end to the distorted possibilities of “marriage.”
People are at liberty to live as they please within the law. But if persons of the same sex commit to each other it simply is not marriage. I suggest another name be found for the same sex commitment. [I (Tyler) suggest that the same sex commitment not be viewed as “okay;” but rather be taught as abomination, as is seen in Scripture.]
Same sex unions are not marriages. To say so is wrong. Edmund Burke’s principle of right and wrong is correct. Wrong triumphs when good men do nothing. May true marriage – between one man and one woman – prevail!
Manhattan Beach, California
Enclosed is the item I mentioned (with which goes a torn up IOU). I could stop here but I won’t.
You’ve heard all the jokes that have been rousted around by all the “unhappy marrieds” and cynics. Now, in case no one has suggested it, there is another viewpoint. You have entered into the most meaningful relationship there is in all human life. It can be whatever you decide to make it.
Some men feel their masculinity can only be proven if they play out in their own life all the locker-room stories, smugly confident that what a wife doesn’t know won’t hurt her. The truth is, somehow, way down inside, without her ever finding lipstick on the collar or catching a man in the flimsy excuse of where he was till three A.M., a wife does know, and with that knowing, some of the magic of this relationship disappears. There are more men griping about marriage who kicked the whole thing away themselves than there can ever be wives deserving of blame. There is an old law of physics that you can only get out of a thing as much as you put in it. The man who puts into the marriage only half of what he owns will get that out. Sure, there will be moments when you will see someone or think back to an earlier time and you will be challenged to see if you can still make the grade, but let me tell you how really great is the challenge of proving your masculinity and charm with one woman for the rest of your life. Any man can find a twerp here and there who will go along with cheating, and it doesn’t take all that much manhood. It does take quite a man to remain attractive and to be loved by a woman who has heard him snore, seen him unshaven, tended him while he was sick and washed his dirty underwear. Do that and keep her still feeling a warm glow and you will know some very beautiful music. If you truly love a girl, you shouldn’t ever want her to feel, when she sees you greet a secretary or a girl you both know, that humiliation of wondering if she was someone who caused you to be late coming home, nor should you want any other woman to be able to meet your wife and know she was smiling behind her eyes as she looked at her, the woman you love, remembering this was the woman you rejected even momentarily for her favors.
Mike, you know better than many what an unhappy home is and what it can do to others. Now you have a chance to make it come out the way it should. There is no greater happiness for a man than approaching a door at the end of a day knowing someone on the other side of that door is waiting for the sound of his footsteps.
P.S. You’ll never get in trouble if you say “I love you” at least once a day.
Yesterday, Mom and I talked about what the primary purpose for marriage is; our conversation stemmed off of what I wrote in “Why Marriage?”.
Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ also loved the church and gave Himself for her, that He might sanctify and cleanse her with the washing of water by the word, that He might present her to Himself a glorious church, not having spot or wrinkle or any such thing, but that she should be holy and without blemish. So husbands ought to love their own wives as their own bodies; he who loves his wife loves himself. For no one ever hated his own flesh, but nourishes and cherishes it, just as the Lord does the church. For we are members of His body, of His flesh and of His bones. “For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the two shall become one flesh.” This is a great mystery, but I speak concerning Christ and the church. Nevertheless let each one of you in particular so love his own wife as himself, and let the wife see that she respects her husband.
Ultimately, marriage is to be a picture Christ and the Church. Christ loved the Church so much that he unselfishly gave himself for her. The Church chooses to unselfishly love Christ in return and give herself for him. If a marriage follows this pattern, it will undoubtedly be strong – and a powerful witness to the unsaved world both for Christ and good marriages.
A co-worker and I were talking the other day, sharing facts about ourselves and getting to know each other better. He told me about his two kids and girl-friend, then jokingly told me that I shouldn’t get married any time soon; that I should wait until I’m much older. I replied that I actually want much to get married – a lot. He chuckled, then asked, “so what would make an 18-year-old like yourself want to get married so young?” I was kind of taken back, and simply answered that I just had always wanted to get married. But after some more thought I determined why exactly – children.
I see children as a huge blessing from God; a blessing that many folks either skip out on, or delay for years so they can… well, I don’t know exactly what… experience the adventures of life, maybe? But that’s not the way I want to do it. I want to experience the adventures of life (and children, last time I checked, are an adventure in and of themselves) with my wife while we are still young and have enough energy for a bunch of “little Tylers” (as Mom would put it).
Sure there are other reasons I want to get married, but I’d have to say that children is my biggest reason.
Lately I’ve been really motivated to become a more godly man, leaving childlike-ness behind while striving to be the man God wants me to be. But I was faced with a tough question last night – what is my real motivation for re-evaluating my life?
I’m motivated by two things – my desire to get married, and my desire to draw closer to God. But then, which of those two things is my primary motivation? Unfortunately, I haven’t figured out the answer yet.